In theory, looking for a Bull sounds relatively easy.
Go online, join a few forums, open up a profile on a dating site and see what bites. Oh, and boy do they bite!
I have had enquires from Scandinavia, Australia, the US…but I live in the UK so I wasn’t looking much further afield than Manchester, maybe Leeds. Further away, if they were promising enough.
I have had a few enquiries that were promising potentials, but only two or three have made the grade. This is what I have found.
1) The bulls who are Dom and want to dominate both wife and husband. Nah. this is too much like porn to me. It’s also a male fantasy to me. I am a Domme. That means I do not submit to anyone, ever. My husband submits to me, but not to anyone else. Any bull who can’t see beyond him getting his rocks off on his terms is no good to me.
2) The potential bulls who think wives are substitute porn actors or prostitutes. As in, the wife will do all the things their wives and girlfriends won’t do, like constant BJs, anal sex, cum facials, and threesomes. Unless I am doing something wrong, I have never orgasmed from anal sex or BJs and ejaculate can burn your eyeballs and send you to A&E. So why would I bother to do it? I’m in this for my pleasure, not his. I don’t find it empowering to be a fuck puppet, or your personal porn provider. Yeez, if I am going to do this I may as well charge for it and have an income on the side.
3) Yes! The other guys. I like these guys. They treat me like a woman. They are looking for some spice, not a real life porn rehearsal opportunity. What happens between us happens between us, and not because they have a mental checklist that they want ticking off. They want to see my tits but they don’t demand “Show me yer tits!”. See the difference?
I don’t know what it is about sex and the world. Why are women degraded so much? Why are we sluts? I know some women get off on being degraded during sex, but why?
Are we so conditioned to being good girls and mothers or sluts and cum buckets that those are the only two paradigms? Madonna or whore?
Can’t we be a mother and enjoy sex too without being denigrated and reduced to even an acronym (yes, MILF, I am talking about you, a mere porn search term). It’s about time that society realises that women like sex for its own sake (not just to procreate or keep men happy). We love sex. It’s just that perhaps we don’t all enjoy men’s idea of sex. We would probably have more sex if the bloody internet wasn’t so fascinated in what we are doing and who we are doing it with and accepted that we are permitted to have sex with more than one person…even if we are married – Cuckolding is love.
Time to switch it up and let women know they are okay if they like sex. That there are opportunities out there and they won’t be negatively judged for making use of them.
Oh, and some of us like being called sluts and cum buckets, but some of us will twist your bollocks off if you pull that shit with us.