This post was originally sourced from https://rideandvibe.blog/2020/10/24/a-few-insights-on-our-hotwifing-dynamic/.

Well, what can I say other than the fact that it’s been a while since our last entry! We started this blog at the tail end of 2019 when our hotwifing adventure was still in its infancy, and then things snowballed as we embraced the lifestyle. Twitter is undoubtedly an incredible platform for sharing, and we truly love to do so, but the 280 character limit is often restrictive when it comes to explaining and detailing our experiences. Chris here – yes, most (but certainly not all) content is generated by me; I’m Hannah’s support crew: the photographer, image editor, lingerie provider, dresser, babysitter, drink pourer, bum shaver, tattoo applier, tweeter, etc. etc. And guess what? I adore each and every single one of these roles that I do in support of my darling, gorgeous wife being a downright naughty girl. It’s no secret that we go to great lengths to make it clear that our relationship is the polar

opposite of a cuckold lifestyle – not because we look down on this (never diss anyone’s kink), but because it just doesn’t match what we have and doesn’t interest us in the slightest. Our relationship and the activities which we enjoy might to many seem to parallel those of a cuckold couple, and indeed attract many followers who enjoy such things (good for them and they’re all welcome!) but it’s simply not us. Sometimes the tight character limit of Twitter and the immediacy of the posts, with exposure to those who haven’t followed our journey, means that people often get the wrong idea (despite hashtags 😂). This wrong idea doesn’t bother us in the slightest – if you’re aroused by our material that’s awesome and makes us happy, but when it leads to comments like: “Time for pathetic cucky to clean up the mess from his superior” And private messages such as this whilst Hannah is away on an overnight…

The following post was originally sourced from https://yourgoddessofcuckolding.wordpress.com/2014/04/12/you-are-my-creator-but-i-am-your-master-obey-mary-shelley/.

Mary Shelley, 1831. Artist : Stump, Samuel John (1778-1863). (Photo by Fine Art Images/Heritage Images/Getty Images)

If you are a husband who wants his wife to cuckold him, I beg you to read my words, listen to them, hear them, live them and think of them before you ever even whisper this idea to the love of your life. When my husband first put the thought into my brain, a little part of my essence, my soul, my light – died inside. I have since been reborn into a far more beautiful and interesting creature, but still, that part of me that was taken, I shall never have her back. Imagine, if my husband were to leave me tomorrow, would I ever be able to put myself back into Pandora’s box? Once the serpent has been unleashed, can we ever really stop her from slaying? I will always be unusual. I will always be unique. I am tainted now. In mainstream eyes – I am damaged goods. However, I have accepted this. It has taken me

years to overcome and to grow strong but I can finally acknowledge who I am. When I look back to the beginning of my marriage – sometimes I think to myself…why didn’t I just leave him? There were times I grew so angry at my husband for ever wanting this lifestyle that the anger consumed me. Ate me up. I dreamed of divorce. I dreamed of leaving him. Hurting him. Finding a “bull” and riding off into the sunset with him. I was angry. I was hurt. I could not believe he wanted to share me. I could not believe he would tempt the gods and allow me to be with other men. Did he truly think I was so unlovable that I could just be a piece of trash used and used and used and used by men – discarded – abused – dirtied. I was heartbroken. I was devastated. I could NOT stand listening to him over and…

The following post was originally sourced from https://cameroncuck.wordpress.com/2015/02/23/the-alpha-cuckold-dilemma/.

It’s been a while since I opened up from a journaling perspective, and I thought this would be a good place to dive back in because being an Alpha Cuckold is a confusing mindset. Society has changed in a big way over the last 20 years, but even though more and more women find themselves in a position of power, it seems to me that most are, at least on a primal level, attracted to strong men. That is at least half of my personality, but there is no question I have a strong lean towards giving away my power. I think the biggest misconception is that a man offering a cuckold relationship to a woman is weak. It’s easy to understand why, because many of the cuckold types I see trolling about online do embrace that persona. But for many of us I think it feels like a desperate reach to experience something we crave. It’s not totally real,

but not totally fake either. My background is sports and held my own for years on a football field and hockey rink at the college level. I have both kicked ass and gotten my ass kicked and walked away a stronger person. I am not afraid of contact or walking into an important business meeting and taking charge. But, like most things in life, my personality seems to run on a sliding scale. Just like the powerful woman who craves being controlled on some level. That is my dilemma and to walk that fence can be tricky. In many ways it has to evolve in a “separate life.” When I first discovered cuckolding, it hit me hard. It seemed crazy, and completely out of tune with everything I’d been taught, but part of it shot a charge of electricity into my soul. Something about it seemed perfect. The link that had been missing through all of my marginal relationships that…

This post was originally sourced from https://cuckoldkisses.wordpress.com/2021/01/26/beyond-fulfillment/.

Last month, my Wife and I began seriously talking about what it would look like for us to enter the lifestyle. For the first time in our relationship, no topic was off limits: hotwifing, cuckolding, ethical non-monogamy, our traditional upbringing and vanilla marriage, jealousy, comparison, contrast, the different kinds of love…the list went on and on. We likely logged two or three full days worth of talking in that first month. It was just that – talking – until it wasn’t. We (she) decided that it was something we wanted to pursue and as soon as we both realized that the only thing standing in our way was us, it felt real. If the weeks leading up to that realization were lighter fluid, that moment was a match. Our relationship exploded into a new realm that we had never experience before. One evening, my Wife brought up that despite all of our time in relationship together, it took us thinking

about other people for Her to experience this sexual awakening and our marriage to be invigorated. What did that mean? What did that mean about Her? About me? This led to us discussing a topic we never felt free to before: fulfillment. Did She just want more than me or did She need more? On the flip side, did I need this dynamic to feel satisfied with our sex life or could I ever be content with it being just the two of us (is the song playing in your head now?). We pressed further into these uncomfortable questions and reminisced on our relationship, particularly the past two years when the “awful vanilla sex” (her words, not mine) that defined most of our marriage started to turn into something more in 2019. That was the year that we decided to invest in couple’s therapy. It was some of the best time and money we’ve ever spent. It helped us address…

The following post was originally sourced from https://confidentcuck.wordpress.com/2020/07/17/the-cuckold-mentality/.

Recently I was asked by a follower “Can you be a cuckold, without your wife/GF taking a lover?” and I thought what a great question. I am sure for a lot of guys into cuckolding that have not found the right woman or found a way to bring it up in their relationship, so are they even a cuckold? Is a man a driver without a car, a writer without a pen, a general without an army? I would argue yes. Being a cuckold is not a kink or a fetish, to be fair it CAN be that but it doesn’t HAVE to be. I think to give this justice its best to go over the difference between a kink, fetish, and mentality are from my perspective and how they build into the lifestyle of this relationship. I see it as an escalating scale and keep in mind I am not a psychologist or sex expert this is just my

personal understanding.   The Scale of Sexual Deviance NOTE: Deviance in this context just means “deviating from the norm” with no negative connotation intended. Deviance is a virtue because the status quo is often so shallow 1. Kink: Kink is your base line for wanting something different. This doesn’t always have to be directly linked to cuckolding, you can love seeing your woman in a certain outfit, like to have your balls slapped, feel a rope tied tightly around your wrists. The kink to me is just the simple act that deviates from vanilla encounters, the gene to the cell, the cell to the organ, the organ to the body, the kink to the fetish. 2. Fetish: Fetish is the personal devotion to the dynamics that make a kink work. It is the next step up and when the aspects of the kink start to enthrall your brain and you feel yourself “going down the rabbit-hole” and trying to learn…

The following article was sourced from https://www.thecuckoldresspodcast.co.uk/post/episode-6-r-e-s-p-e-c-t-find-out-what-it-means-to-me.

Respect

In theory, looking for a Bull sounds relatively easy. Go online, join a few forums, open up a profile on a dating site and see what bites. Oh, and boy do they bite! I have had enquires from Scandinavia, Australia, the US…but I live in the UK so I wasn’t looking much further afield than Manchester, maybe Leeds. Further away, if they were promising enough. I have had a few enquiries that were promising potentials, but only two or three have made the grade. This is what I have found. 1) The bulls who are Dom and want to dominate both wife and husband. Nah. this is too much like porn to me. It's also a male fantasy to me. I am a Domme. That means I do not submit to anyone, ever. My husband submits to me, but not to anyone else. Any bull who can't see beyond him getting his rocks off on his terms is no good

to me. 2) The potential bulls who think wives are substitute porn actors or prostitutes. As in, the wife will do all the things their wives and girlfriends won't do, like constant BJs, anal sex, cum facials, and threesomes. Unless I am doing something wrong, I have never orgasmed from anal sex or BJs and ejaculate can burn your eyeballs and send you to A&E. So why would I bother to do it? I'm in this for my pleasure, not his. I don't find it empowering to be a fuck puppet, or your personal porn provider. Yeez, if I am going to do this I may as well charge for it and have an income on the side. 3) Yes! The other guys. I like these guys. They treat me like a woman. They are looking for some spice, not a real life porn rehearsal opportunity. What happens between us happens between us, and not because they have a mental…

The following post was originally sourced from https://artfulthrobber.tumblr.com/post/175982557491/why-wife-sharinghotwifing.

Why wife sharing/hotwifing? Wife sharing has definitely been a process for me. A process that has lead to a lot of self discovery and personal growth. It has been one of the most unique and powerful experiences of my life. Its very unusual to me that letting my wife sleep with other men could impact our lives in such a positive way. I would go as far as to say that it has impacted my life to a greater magnitude than hers. The sheer thought of what most would consider betrayal, being not only a positive experience, but an experience that would create a culture inside of our marriage of trust and communication that would lead to a greater sense of closeness and love. It is a bit of a mind fuck, but none the less very true. However, I feel as though, I have many questions that need to be answered. Questions about myself that I want answered. I

mean, am I just a hormone driven man that is into some freaky shit, or is my desire derived of my gentleman nature, or maybe something in between. Why do I like wife sharing and what has it done for me? Why does my wife like the lifestyle, and what has it done for her? What has it done for my marriage? There are just some questions that are obviously going to be multi-layered and are probably going to evolve in the coming years. From what we have seen thus far, we have seen positive growth in both of our personal lives as well as in our marriage. It is up to us to create a marriage that we both love. It is our responsibility to each other to create a marriage that enriches both our lives. Happiness takes many forms, and there are many ways to achieve happiness. The most important part of our wife sharing lifestyle, is that…

The following post was sourced from the now defunct https://oursexyexploration.tumblr.com/.

Hotwife Lifestyle - Understanding Our Man’s Hotwife Fantasy and How to Use That to Our Advantage The fantasy of having a “Hotwife” is growing, in fact, research shows it is growing at a higher rate than a good majority of the other lifestyle alternatives, including the old staple of “swinging” and the modern “open relationship”.  Why is it that a fantasy that revolves around only one part of a relationship – the woman – going out and finding pleasure from another man more intriguing to an increasing number of men than going out and “getting some” for himself? Basic psychology tells us that men are highly competitive creatures.  They have a drive to compete with other males of the species for the best mate – this isn’t so much different than what happens in the animal kingdom.  Most men have an innate drive to compete with other men when it comes to the “best mate” or the “most attractive woman”.

 With this being said, one of the reservations of most women who find out about their husband or partner’s Hotwife fantasy is that he is somehow “weaker” than the rest because he wants to give up his position as your only partner.  Is this really true, though?  Could the truth lie somewhere within today’s man’s loss of natural competition in everyday life, and a desire to maintain a level of competition after marriage or “monogamy”?  Is this weakness, or rather the ultimate confidence? Cuckholding aside, because this aspect of the fantasy requires a bit more in terms of a “woman led” relationship, and a bit more from the man in terms of a desire for mental sadomasochism, a good majority of men enjoy the idea that they have been able to “capture” the best mate and even when she’s out having amazing physical and emotional experiences with men who may have qualities that actually supersede their own – a better…

This post was originally sourced from https://www.fastcompany.com/3065256/banking-discrimination-porn-sex-toys.

Porn and sex toys aren’t illegal, but banks often treat them that way. Critics say the practice is discriminatory and amounts to censorship. Last summer, Zoë Ligon, an erotic artist, was in the early stages of starting an online sex-toy shop she anointed Spectrum Pleasure. She visited a Bank of America branch in Detroit, wanting to open a checking account and take out a line of credit in order to start purchasing inventory. For the latter order of business, a Bank of America banker put her through to a credit specialist. The woman on the other end of the line was disinterestedly running through a list of scripted questions until she saw the word “pleasure” in the LLC title. “I remember, she just stopped short in the middle of the sentence and was like, ‘Ma’am, what kind of a business is this?’” recalls Ligon. “All of a sudden, her tone totally changed. I was being talked to like I had

an illegal business.” With no further explanation, the credit agency refused to extend Ligon a line of credit because her shop qualified as an “adult business.” Even though she had previously faced repeated rejections trying to start a brick and mortar store, Ligon says, the incident at the bank “might have been the first time I broke down into tears since starting the business.” An added kick in the teeth came later that day when she received a sales call from a Bank of America employee trying to get her to sign up for its new e-commerce platform, only to be denied once more. “Oh, I’m sorry, we don’t offer this service to adult businesses or marijuana businesses,” the salesperson explained to her over the phone. “I was already emotional. It had been such a long day,” remembers Ligon, who was keen to sign up. “It was incredibly awkward to have a sale retracted from me.” Sex toy shops are…

This post was originally sourced from https://subhubbybilly.blogspot.com/2020/12/2020-year-of-growth-and-setbacks-mostly.html.

Here we are. The end of 2020. Just as I believe most people do this time of yeah, I have been doing a lot of reflection about this past year and myself. My career. My relationships with my friends and family. The madness of this pandemic and weeks upon weeks of either total or partial lockdown. My marriage. And yes, my kinks and fetishes. Upon which this blog entry focuses. Despite pandemic and social distancing, I actually explored myself sexually and spiritually quite a bit this past year. For Christmas last year, Lady Jessica and I's Christmas gift to each other was a sex retreat and couples building retreat. We went away to it in March, right before pandemic as luck would have it. I mean, RIGHT before. Two weeks later and we would have not been able to go because of lockdown. And it was the results of that retreat that really led to my own exploration this year.

Among other things, one something I was able to open up about not only to Jessica but to myself was a kink that I had been playing around with for a long time, that had been causing me a lot of emotional distress. It was escapism, really. But it was making me feel more and more lost and unsure of myself and my own identity. At times it was leaving me feeling helpless and suicidal. It had a lot of connections to a lot of bad stuff that happened to me earlier in my life. In our sessions and workshops with the counselors, we determined that indeed I was using it as an escape. In youth, I had been programmed to believe that was where I belonged. But my adult psyche was fighting it. Part of me knew it wasn't where I belonged. That was what was causing the internal conflict. The feelings of helplessness. We also realized that I…