The journey from simple male chastity to cuckold chastity is an interesting one.  It isn’t necessarily a natural progression to being a chastity cuck – the man who seeks to be placed in chastity isn’t by any means always fantasizing about his wife cuckolding him.  However it’s often a slower journey from being kept in chastity…to adding the extra dimension of cuckolding into the mix. Being cuckolded by your woman, dovetails nicely with being denied sex by her. In fact most would argue that it instills an extra thrilling aspect to the concept! Your women isn’t simply just denying you orgasms…she is actively giving other men orgasms, while you remain denied!  How deliciously thrilling is that. As your cock remains locked away in its little cage, your woman is out there unzipping another mans trousers and freeing his big penis to stroke and no doubt have sex with. This is the added dimension that leads from plain old male chastity to

chastity and cuckolding – a combination that can send a man into a painful ecstasy!   A Growing Number Of Men Want To Be Chastity Cuckolds In fact so many thousands of men desire this cuckolding aspect of this relationship,  that there are dedicated cuckold dating sites where you can even find a partner to cuckold you! So….once a male has adequately adapted to being locked up in a chastity device on a more-or-less  permanent basis, his female keyholder has options that were never available to her before…like introducing this concept of cuckold chastity Achieving this position of authority in their relationship has been no easy task for Her though! Its a been probably a long slow process of slowly turning into a submissive and and breaking his will Even though deep down he really wants to be locked-up in a chastity device and controlled by a strong and powerful woman, the typical man has been brain-washed by other males in society that he…

Compersion: The Only Way Out is To Dive In This is a repost of something my husband got from a friend who is therapist. He believed this has helped him understand his feelings better and deal with any bouts of jealousy that he feels when I am with someone else.   I'm posting it because he suggested it. Maybe this can help others. One of the things pilots learn about flying is that many of the principals associated with flying go contrary to what would be common sense on four wheels. On wings, it's safer to be high rather than close to the ground, and it’s safer to go fast than to go slow. Certain things that you must do as a pilot will violate every instinct in your body -- such as when your airplane stalls, you need to point it directly at the ground to pick up speed and resume flying. When we find ourselves in an "in

love" situation, you could say that we trade in our wheels for wings. This new environment requires that we adapt to new logic. It is not always easy to keep an intimate relationship aloft, and one of the most disturbing things that can threaten staying aloft is the feeling of jealousy. Compersion is about embracing and enjoying the fact that someone we love can find sexual pleasure, or even have feelings, with someone else. Becoming comfortable with compersion is akin to pointing the nose of an airplane down when you go into a stall created by jealousy. It takes courage to do this in any event, but it can often be the best way, if not the only way, to keep from crashing and preserve one’s sanity and the relationship. Looked at another way, compersion is the full appreciation of another person's pleasure and indeed their existence -- something many relationships could use a lot more of. If we could…

One thing I have always loved about the concept of evolution is that it always seems to bring out the best in us, and other species too. As time goes by, human beings tend to break free from the artificial social prisons imposed by their fellow human beings which prevent them from expressing their true natural selves.  You often hear of gay couples, lesbian couples as well other people of all sorts of sexual orientations speak of their sense of identity, release and freedom that they have discovered. Has the world has gone crazy? Is it moral decadence? Certainly not. The concept of ‘coming out’ is more of a resistance, a revolt or some kind of prison break. I am sure you have also heard of cuckolding couples talk of their newfound happiness, unbridled ecstasy and contentment. It is the same with me. When I explain to a few friends of mine about my cuckolding lifestyle, they react with shock

and astonishment. Some say am crazy, but many are those who have come to appreciate me for who I am. And no, I am not judging. Far from it. I only beg your indulgence as I explain to you why a cuckold lifestyle suits me, and why I am perfectly happy with it. My Partner is now happy.  Human beings are sexual beings. Women are just as sexual as men are, or probably even more. Many women talk of the sexual frustrations they endure at home. In most cultures, the needs of women are treated as secondary to those of men. And when they seek help, they are advised to ‘persevere’. Things are really changing now due to women empowerment and feminism. I am not willing to go into the merits or demerits of both, but I have come to appreciate that I must do the things that make my wife happy. Why should she, a high-flying, assertive and dominant…

‘Denial’ is the  overt application of decisions which limit or redefine a husband’s sexual privileges with his wife. The practice of the various forms of denial can lead to increased physical and emotional intimacy for cuckold couples as well as a heightened experience for other males involved with the couple. They key isn’t just to limit the cuckold’s ability to have intercourse with his wife, but to channel that need into other forms of intimacy.   Context In a general sense, couples want sex for for three reasons: sexual release physical and emotional intimacy procreation   Release & Intimacy For couples whose husband lacks the requisite stamina or cock to effectively satisfy his wife, intercourse is really only effective for sexual release and most often only for the husband. In such marriages, the majority of the intimacy comes during pillow talk or foreplay since the duration of intercourse is likely short, leaving the emotional intimacy not well satisfied either. When

intercourse is no longer the default option to pursue enjoyment of these core experiences for couples, other avenues can open, avenues which aren’t limited in the same fashion as intercourse and therefore likely to be enjoyed for longer periods and provide greater intimacy and even pleasure. Example: Many wives, though they desire intimacy with their husband, may shy away from arousing him because they know it’s likely to lead to him pursuing sex with her, which she knows, will only lead to her frustration. When a form of denial is in place, the wife no longer has that perspective because the sexual options for her husband are defined, freeing her to verbally and/or physically arouse him simply to enjoy the moment of intimacy. In this manner, the ‘frustration’ shifts from the wife to the husband, but you’ll hardly ever find a cuckold who doesn’t eagerly agree to enduring this type of frustration in order to enjoy increased intimacy with his…

Last night I gave Thomas a ruined orgasm.  A ruined orgasm is when you stop providing stimulation to you man's cock when he starts to cum or right before he starts to cum, thereby ruining his orgasm.  The man may feel a brief moment of pleasure but then it immediately vanishes leaving him frustrated.  I have to admit that I get a thrill from seeing his desperation and it is even more thrilling that he thanks me afterward.  He is like a puppy dog that is always happy...always wagging his tail no matter what I do.  Some may consider this cruel, but even Thomas enjoys when I ruin his orgasms because it is another form of control that he gets to experience.  To him a full blown orgasm is a very special privilege that he only experiences on a rare occasions. Denying his orgasm keeps him feeling submissive and controlled.  He craves this feeling and enjoys the mental game. The thrill

and arousal that I experience from his ruined orgasm is only a part of the reason I do it.  I also consider the ruined orgasm a powerful tool for controlling Thomas and keeping him obedient.  The biggest advantage of a ruined orgasm is that it allows the man some release but avoids the post orgasm "slump" that most men experience after an full orgasm.  The slump I am referring to is when the man loses all energy and loses interest in sex and pleasing the woman.  After a ruined orgasm, many men do not experience the slump or it is very brief.  Thomas will often remain hard after the ruined orgasm.  His level of horniness remains high as well. Another advantage of the ruined orgasm is that it is one more tool to add to your bag of tricks for teasing and orgasm control.  You can tell your man that he is allowed to orgasm and then at the moment he is about…

26F (me) and 34M in a stag/vixen dynamic. I see SO many posts “how do I get her into it?” “how can I convince my wife??” “should I pick a guy, set her up, etc”. Pump. The. Fucking. Breaks. Guys. Maybe it’s a girl you just started dating, maybe it’s a longtime gf, and maybe it’s your wife, your LIFE partner. “Convince her”? She is a whole entire person with her own thoughts and feelings, who (presumably) loves you, your thoughts, and feelings. You likely entered into a relationship under the premise of monogamy. And now you want her to fuck other guys. This creates a whole whirlwind of emotions for her, TRUST ME. I remember (and sometimes still have) thoughts of: -So he wants to fuck other girls? -Is this his way of setting me up with someone else so he can cut me loose? -Maybe he’s just using me as a comfortable/safe way to get to other men?

-This is all about him. He wants me to have a HUGE cock inside me and have some rando throw me around for his enjoyment. I thought he loved me, and now I’m being demoted to a cheap sex object? -Does he really just think he’s letting me act on my deepest desires, being a cock-hungry slut that needs a 10” dick to feel fulfilled? Does he really think all women want this, but are too “ashamed” to “give in”? -Is he unhappy with our sex life? -Does he not want to fuck me anymore, so he’s just outsourcing labor? lol -He really doesn’t care about losing me -He REALLY really doesn’t care about losing me Whether these things are in fact true for my situation or yours, I can’t ever be 100% sure. I can be sure that your lady has definitely considered at least some of these things and possibly more. And maybe for you (and my bf)…

I absolutely love being a hotwife. One of the best parts for me is driving my husband insane with lust for me by giving him just the right blend of teasing and reassurance. Not only do I get the freedom and variety of choosing my own sexual partners, but I also get a husband who burns with desire for me. For the purpose of this entry I’m going to use the term hotwife for any wife with permission to play, cuckoldress for a hotwife who emphasizes her dominance in the sexual relationship, huband for the hotwife’s primary partner (could easily be a fiance or boyfriend), and lover for the other sex partner who’s not the husband. Here are some techniques I regularly use that I’ve found hotwives and cuckoldresses can use to make their encounters extra fun for their husbands and for themselves. When Husband is Watching You with Another Man Eye Contact* - Nothing will arouse and tease your

husband like strong eye contact with him. Eye contact says, “Look at me!” and makes it impossible for either of you to ignore or trivialize what’s going on. Eye contact can be gentle or fierce, depending on your style and the message you’re trying to send. I prefer to lock eyes for a long time, then wink or smile right before I look away. I like to lock eyes with my husband while I’m blowing my lover. Smile* - Smiling is both a tease and a reassurance. It says both, “Look how much fun I’m having!” and “Everything is OK.” I love to smile at him when I’m riding my lover cowgirl-style. Say Something* - You don’t have to jabber away, but it’s fun to say things now and then. I love dirty talk with my lover while my husband’s watching. I also like to interact with him, asking, “How are you liking the show?” or “Don’t you wish you…

This is a reply I posted to a question asking for a woman's perspective and I thought it would be interesting for others to read. If you are trying to talk to your woman about adding cuckolding into your relationship you have to try and look at it from her perspective. Try and think like a woman. Here are a few things to keep in mind: Most women have been groomed by society to feel ashamed of our sexuality. Even just desiring sex and having a libido has societal shame attached to it. Now, add any sort of religious beliefs on top of that societal shame. This causes the shame to grow even deeper roots. Women get shamed by both men and women for being sexual. So, there is the fear that has been planted in women by others. Sometimes these fear roots run so deep that no amount of assurance will unearth them. My boyfriend and I are just

starting into this together. It's his fantasy, we both have experience in alternative lifestyles, and I'm still worried that he's going to judge me... I know in my mind he won't, but those fear roots run so deep that it doesn't matter what I know about him, me, and our relationship. That's a fear of mine that won't ever go away, it will just lessen with time. So take things slow. Take baby steps. Maybe see if she'll go to a swingers night just to see what it is without pressure to participate. Maybe start with even a smaller step than that but time and exposure helps. There is the fear of the unknown. Once she has sex with someone else, she can't undo that. If it hurts you, it could cause serious problems in you relationship. There's no going back once that line has been crossed and that can be scary. There is fear of strange men. Women have…

I first encountered the “creampie fetish” in 2007 as I was interviewing for my book Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them (2009), which discussed the psychology and biology behind couples who deliberately shared the wives sexually with other men.  In that lifestyle the creampie, or a man’s ejaculate, trickling slowly from the woman’s vagina, is celebrated as a sort of Holy Grail, demonstrating the wife’s defilement by another man (though the word defilement sounds much, much meaner than these couples usually intend it).  In Insatiable Wives, I discussed the creampie it related to the psychology of this lifestyle.  But, over recent years, the creampie fetish is no longer relegated to the cuckold fans, but appears to have gone “mainstream,” popping up in porn and sexuality discussions at a much broader level. Since 2005, Google searches for “creampie” have quadrupled, with the most frequent searches involving “creampie porn” and “anal creampie.”  Pornhub recently released interesting user data,

also showing that creampie is a highly sought-after form of porn, especially in more politically conservative states.  Jokes about creampies are found in movies and late-night comedy talkshows, and Miley Cyrus even performed at a “Christmas Creampies Concert” in 2012.  Despite these interesting data and trends of sexual interest, no one has written about the potential psychological and sociological implications of growing interest in this fetishistic desire (like many of my colleagues, I use the term fetish to describe a strong sexual interest or predilection, and do not imply that this desire is inherently pathological or evidence of disturbed sexuality). Sperm Warfare is a theory describing behavioral and biological adaptations which exert influence over whose sperm is most likely to fertilize a woman’s ovum.  Accepting the premise that humans evolved in a promiscuous, nonmonogamous environment where a man’s sperm had to “compete” with the sperm of other men in a woman’s vagina, sperm warfare suggests that natural selection acted upon…